THE RITE
June 12-15 · Northern California · Limited Spots
You Know Something
Is Missing.
You may look like you are holding life together from the outside. But inside, something feels diluted. You are showing up, producing, caring for others, keeping things moving, yet some deeper part of you knows you have not fully stepped into your own life.
- -You stay busy and productive, but rarely pause long enough to ask what you truly want and what kind of man you are becoming.
- -You have become skilled at keeping the peace, even when it means shrinking your truth, softening your edge, or abandoning your own needs.
- -When tension rises in relationship, family, or work, you sometimes go numb or disappear instead of staying present and grounded.
- -You can feel how much of your life has been shaped by performance, adapting to what others need from you instead of resting in who you are.
- -You sense there is more strength, clarity, and leadership in you, but you have not fully trusted yourself enough to live from it.
- -You may turn toward distraction and stimulation instead of stillness, because stillness would ask you to feel what is actually there.
- -Somewhere deep down, you know life is asking you to step forward, not just keep coping.
This is not because you are broken. It is because many men were never truly guided through a meaningful threshold into grounded manhood. The Rite is designed to offer that passage with honesty, brotherhood, and depth.
What This Is
Actually Costing You.
In Relationship
The same patterns repeat. Conflict either escalates, goes cold, or gets bypassed. Intimacy thins out. The deeper conversation never quite happens. The woman beside you can feel when you are there physically but not fully there emotionally.
At Work
You take on too much, say yes too often, and carry more than you need to because boundaries still feel loaded. Leadership becomes effortful when you are disconnected from your own center.
In Your Body
Your body absorbs what your mind avoids. Stress lingers. Numbness creeps in. Vitality drops. You can function, but functioning is not the same as feeling fully alive.
In Your Legacy
Your children, your partner, and the people closest to you are learning from how you handle pressure, tenderness, truth, and repair. The way you show up becomes part of what they carry forward.
Not a Workshop.
Not a Circle.
A Threshold.
The Rite is a three-day men’s initiation experience designed to help a man meet himself more honestly, reconnect to his body and truth, and return home with greater steadiness, self-respect, and leadership. This is deep work, but it is not about being broken down. It is about being met, challenged with care, and invited into a stronger relationship with yourself.
The Mask
We begin by naming the patterns, roles, and protective strategies you have been living inside of. The point is not to shame them. It is to recognize them clearly, understand how they were formed, and begin loosening what no longer serves your life.
The Wound
Through guided practices, breath, reflection, and carefully held process work, you will meet the places where your life became constricted. Not just as a story in your mind, but as something your body has been carrying. The work here is honest, embodied, and relieving.
The Relationship
You will practice what it means to stay open and grounded in relationship instead of withdrawing, managing, or performing. This is where many men begin to feel what mature presence actually is and why their relationships have been quietly longing for it.
The Commitment
You do not leave with inspiration alone. You leave with language for who you are becoming, practices to support your nervous system, and a clearer commitment to how you want to live when you return to your family, work, and daily reality.
Not Just a
Peak Experience.
The value of this retreat is not how you feel on the final day. It is how differently you show up in the weeks and months after you return home.
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A Practice You Can Actually Use
You leave with simple, repeatable tools for regulating your nervous system, reconnecting to your body, and returning to center when life gets intense. Not theory. A real daily foundation.
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More Presence in Conflict and Love
You become less likely to shut down, defend, or disappear when hard conversations arise. More capacity to stay present means more honesty, more repair, and more intimacy in your relationships.
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Clearer Boundaries and Leadership
You begin to notice where you have been over-giving, over-functioning, or waiting for permission. From a steadier center, leadership becomes less performative and more natural.
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Brotherhood That Continues
You go through something real with other men. That creates a different kind of trust. The aim is not just a meaningful weekend, but lasting support, accountability, and shared growth.
Meet your
Facilitators.
The Rite is led by facilitators who know this terrain personally and who understand how to hold meaningful process with steadiness, challenge, and care. The work is deep, but the container is grounded.
Om works at the meeting point of embodiment, relationship, truth, and transformation. He helps men come back into contact with themselves so they can show up with more integrity, sensitivity, and grounded strength in every area of life.
His facilitation is direct but deeply human. He brings warmth, depth, and the ability to create spaces where men can soften defensiveness, reconnect to feeling, and remember what matters.
His work is rooted in lived experience, relational practice, and helping men step into greater presence with themselves and the people they love.
Rob grew up without a real map for manhood. Parents divorced young. Stepfather spent time in prison. By his late 20s he was CrossFit-fit, making great money - and digging his fingernails into the grooves he'd worn into his steering wheel on I-94, having a full panic attack on the way to take his wife on a date.
He said f*ck that. Stepped out of corporate. Spent 18 months at the Temple of Kriya Yoga. Certified in breathwork. HeartMath. And built what he wishes someone had handed him - a real, embodied training system for sovereign manhood.
Founder of Order of Kings, Forge, the KIVA Initiatory Retreat, and the Patriarch Summit. Host of the Uncommon the Dad Word podcast. Father of three.
Held at Gaia Retreat Center
in Nevada City.
Set in the pines above Nevada City, Gaia Retreat Center is a private forest estate in Northern California with expansive indoor and outdoor gathering spaces, quiet corners for reflection, and the kind of natural seclusion that supports real presence. The setting is beautiful without being distracting, refined without losing its warmth, and designed to help men step out of everyday noise and settle into deeper work.
All meals are prepared on site by a private chef using locally sourced ingredients to nourish participants through the journey and support the depth of the work.
Be Honest
With Yourself.
✦ This Is For You If
- -You are ready to stop living only from responsibility and start living from deeper alignment
- -You want to grow your capacity for presence, truth, and grounded leadership
- -You can feel repeating patterns in your relationships and are willing to look honestly at your part
- -You are open to embodied, emotional, and relational work, not just ideas and information
- -You want to be in honest brotherhood with men who are also doing real work
- -You are willing to step beyond your familiar comfort zone in service of something deeper
✕ This Is Not For You If
- -You want a passive weekend of inspiration without any meaningful self-inquiry
- -You are only looking for information, not lived experience
- -You are not open to being seen honestly by yourself or by other men
- -You want comfort more than growth right now
What Men Are
Taking With Them.
“Om is a thoughtful teacher with a powerful emotional intuition. I appreciate his ability to be both gentle, and also push and challenge during sessions, when needed. I highly recommend working with Om for anyone looking to understand themselves better, and gain greater confidence in themselves.”
“The men’s group has been deeply impactful on my life. From the first session I was able to confront parts of myself that were stagnant and obsessive. But at the heart it was Om’s facilitation which enabled us to go deeper, knowing there was always love at the center of the practice. I’m very grateful for my time with Om and I look forward to the opportunity to continue to build upon all the great work we’ve done together.”
“He has a way of making me feel both entirely comfortable and pushed to the edge of my mental boundaries. I found him to be an excellent facilitator that could home in on a single individual while still eliciting the engagement of the entire group. Highly recommend.”
“His ability to create a safe, open, and non-judgmental space for men to connect on a deeper level helped me a lot. From the very first moment, I felt supported and encouraged to explore my own vulnerabilities and growth. My life improved significantly in many aspects.”
A Clear Note
This is not a spa retreat, and it is not designed as a passive, relaxing getaway.
You should expect to step outside your comfort zone, engage honestly, and meet parts of yourself that may have been waiting for your attention for a long time.
At the same time, this is not about being pushed for the sake of intensity. The container is intentional, respectful, and designed to support meaningful growth.
If you feel both curiosity and a little resistance as you read this, that may simply mean something important in you is ready to move.
A Clear, Personal
Application Process.
Step 1: Apply
Complete a short application so we can understand where you are in life, what is calling you here, and whether this experience is the right fit.
Step 2: Connect
If it feels aligned, you will have a direct conversation with Om or Rob to ask questions, feel the fit, and make sure the retreat meets you well.
Step 3: Commit
Accepted men receive the next steps, payment details, and preparation guidance so they arrive clear, supported, and ready for the experience.
Your Move.
Three days away from your normal life to reconnect with what is true, strengthen your foundation, and return home more present, more grounded, and more fully yourself.
- Included: 3 nights lodging
- Included: full board meals
- Included: all facilitation and retreat programming
- Included: post-retreat integration support
When does the retreat begin and end?
Arrival begins Friday, June 12 at 2:00 PM. The opening circle begins at 6:00 PM that evening. The closing circle ends Monday, June 15 at 12:00 PM.
Where is the retreat held?
The retreat takes place at Gaia Retreat Center in Nevada City, California, in a private forest setting designed to support depth, reflection, and meaningful connection.
What are the closest airports?
The closest airports are Sacramento International Airport (SMF), Reno-Tahoe International Airport (RNO), and San Francisco International Airport (SFO). Approximate driving distances to Nevada City are 68 miles from Sacramento, 88 miles from Reno, and 158 miles from SFO.
Are meals included?
Yes. All meals are included and prepared on site by a private chef using fresh, locally sourced ingredients to nourish participants throughout the retreat and support the depth of the work.
Can you accommodate dietary needs or food restrictions?
Yes. Food restrictions or requests, including vegetarian, kosher-style, allergies, and other dietary needs, can be shared in the application form.
What should I bring?
Bring comfortable clothing for indoor and outdoor time, layers for cooler mornings and evenings, any personal items you need for a three-night stay, a yoga mat, and a water bottle. A journal is mandatory.
Do I need retreat experience to attend?
No previous retreat experience is required. What matters most is a genuine willingness to show up, participate fully, and step beyond your usual comfort zone.
This retreat is intentionally small. When the spots are filled, registration closes.
The Man You Have Been
Does Not Have To Be The Limit.
There are moments in life when something deeper asks for your attention. The Rite is for the man who is ready to answer that call with honesty, courage, and support.
Take the Next StepSee you on the other side.